I pray that our love will grow like a weed in the garden

Seems like just about everyone is experiencing some issues in their relationship. I've heard that there is something going on with mercury being in retrograde but that should have passed by now. I hate to see the misery and sadness that can come from such a beautiful (marriage), when they partners are out of tune. So, I've decided to post some unsolicited advice and techniques to remind myself and to help anyone else that might be in need. So the following thoughts are in no particular order and if you have any advice you'd like to share, please do!

• When I'm super mad, I take a second and think "How would you feel if Jason died right now, and you wasted these last moments you could have had with him"
• Always remember to try and see things from both sides
• Don't hold a grudge and try not to bring things up that have been resolved (I'm guilty of this)
• Be a good listener and try hard not to read things into what is being said. Repeat back what the person is saying if you are unclear
• Apologise if you were rude, mean, or said something you shouldn't have said even if you aren't fighting
• Try to let your partner know when you are having a bad day, PMS or are being miserable because sometime we are mean or act out without knowing it and it's good for them to be aware
• Get back to the basics, dating, talking, laughing
• Treat your partner not just how you'd like to be treated but how they'd like to be treated because the assumption that we both would like to be treated the same way just isn't true
• Be honest, no matter how painful the truth is a lie will always be worse
• Compromise
• Make time for something we both enjoy
• If we have nothing in common, keep looking because the experiences of trying new things can be a fun too
• Express your feelings but not necessarily in the middle of a fight, try it during the calm, happy time or as I prefer daily
• In some cases writing things down is necessary and it can be a great way to be sure both partners aren't over stepping their expectations
• Take time to be intimate with each other (sex, a naked nap, whatever)
• Share the responsibilities of the house and it'll make more time for both of you
• Take time to be nostalgic with each other
• Express your needs because we aren't mind readers
• Pray for guidance
• Love whole hearted and unconditionally
• If you are struggling and haven't been able to resolve an issue, outside help can be really helpful

I hope your heart is filled with love and warmth. Try to take some time and be thankful for your partner even if they are driving you crazy. Hopefully, the good times outweigh the bad and the future holds more happiness.